Tuesday, March 4, 2008

and you thought that I forgot.....

Remember way back here when I asked for some ideas to blog about. I started answering and then life happened and well......better late than never right? A sweet bloggy friend Elaine asked the following

"I'd love to know a little about your childhood and siblings. maybe one of your favorite childhood memories with your siblings"

I touched on this topic a little in my 100 things about me post but I'll try to explain my childhood a little more.

My father was in the airforce when I was born. He got out when I was three. He divorced my birth mother when I was 4 and I really don't have many memories of her. She was addicted to a couple of substances that made it really hard (read impossible) for her to function as a mother. I do remember her sleeping a lot and my sister who is 8 years old than I am really took care of me.

Soon after divorcing my birth mom, my father married a wonderful woman named Betty who became my mother. She was everything I needed and as I have said many times, she saved me. We didn't have much money but we were happy. Soon, we moved to a farm and soon my sister grew up and moved away. A couple of my cousins lived with us for several years and became my surrogate brothers. We had a lot of good times on the farm. My mom was very playful and when my dad was gone we would have food fights, water fights and any other kind of cheap fun she could dream up. My dad was an alcoholic which made it difficult for anyone to live with him an eventually they split up.

He wouldn't allow me to stay with who technically was my step-mother so I had to live with him. This was a really hard time for me because I wanted to be with the only mom I had ever really know but he wouldn't allow it. She had no legal claim. He married again to someone that had raised her kids and was in no mood to start again with a teenager. They divorced when I was 18 and I can't say that I was sad about it.

The good news in this really kind of depressing post is that in the end my mom (technically my stop mom) and my dad got back together in the end. They really were soul mates and I believe they are together again in the next world. I know it sounds like my life was kind of difficult and at times it was but I have many good memories and all the things I went through shaped me into the person I am today (explains a LOT doesn't it..LOL)

8 comments:

Magirk said...

I thought this was actually a lovely post. ;)

It's nice to learn more about you.

And I think most of us can say our childhoods were riddled with some not-so-pleasant things.

You're great! :)

Kimberly said...

I agree...lovely post!

Holly said...

Very nice post. I think it's wonderful that you were able to find someone who truly loved you and you were able to connect with. I agree with the others, lovely post!

Nancy Face said...

Your mom sounds so wonderful! I'm so glad she and your dad got back together. :)

Mo Mommy said...

Congratulations! You are now an honorary member of my "Functioning Members of Disfunctional Families" club.
However, since your stepmom was awesome I'm going to have to demote you to member third class for having some functionality in your family, sorry ;)
That was really great, thanks for sharing!

utmommy said...

Yeah for happy endings!

Elaine said...

Thanks Tonya! I love learning more about you. I have a similar story, except it was my mom that left my bio-father.

Yvonne said...

You are such a wonderful person, tonya. Your step mom sounds like such a wonderful person. I'm so glad she and your dad got back together.

Thanks for sharing.