Sunday, March 7, 2010

Sunshine on my shoulder

makes me happy. It has been a truly beautiful weekend and while I know the sun won't last because it's technically still winter, I am enjoying it just the same.

Well, the laptop is working again. Sort of. We got it back and just a few days later, Internet explorer stopped working. I have literally spent hours working with the help people but it's still not working. I was able to download Mozilla on the desktop computer and then upload it here and voila, we have Internet access again. The computer still has major issues but it's limping along.

It's been awhile since I posted. I'm trying to remember all the things that have happened. Pretty much, we just going to work or school and then doing our thing at night and then was and repeat.

We painted and redecorated Blake's bedroom which took a few Saturdays but I love the way it turned. I don't have the pictures downloaded on here but will do that and post pictures soon.

We have been in a tough stage with Blake lately. He's been having trouble telling the truth which is so frustrating. It's been no fun for any of us as we have to take privileges away and institute punishments. We just keep hoping that if we stick to our guns he'll figure it out that he gets in WAY more trouble when he lies then when he tells the truth.

We also started seeing a counselor mostly for Blake but we think it will benefit the whole family. He is a very smart kid but has a LOT of trouble sitting still and focusing in school. It's also an issue at church and if we don't try to get some help, we are worried that his smarts will only take him so far and he'll start to fall behind. He also has issues with impulse control and respecting the "space bubble" that people have and sometimes need.

On the flip side, he is a funny, loving and outgoing kid that tries his best to cooperate. No-one thinks that he's doing anything wrong on purpose or out of malice.

Here is one example of the lying and sneakiness. He got a "paw pause" in school. He has gotten these before. They get them when they do something that isn't' safe, responsible or respectful. They are supposed to bring home the paper for the parent to see and we sign it and he takes it back in. Well, Blake decided he would just sign his dads name and turn it back in. Of course the teacher could tell right away and called us. This child is only 7 years old and it's just amazes me that he even thought of this. I think I should be afraid, very afraid. We have to get a handle on this before he gets to the teens years.

That's all that I can think of for now. I will get some pics downloaded and get some on here soon.

**Sidenote: It's been a struggle but I have lost 14 pounds since starting my new lifestyle change. Just need to keep it up and someday I will get where I'm going.

12 comments:

b. said...

Oh, Tonya...we have the same problem with our daughter. You are so wise to get on it soon--I waited until she was in 7th grade to do anything about it. It's tough.
Something our counselor told us is to not set her up to lie. For instance, if she takes something without asking...simply ask for it back, give her a time period to return it instead of asking her if she took it.
I wish you much success!
Congratulations on your weight loss--WAY TO GO!

Carrie said...

I so know what you're going through. Alyssa went through a lying and stealing phase that lasted about two years, and of course we're all over the not sitting still stuff.

You're so smart to get help. I'm sure that it will definitely benefit the entire family. We just got done seeing a counselor with Alyssa, and it helped her to have someone talking to her besides her parents and teachers, but it also really helped me to find ways to be a better parent for Alyssa. Good luck with everything! Let us know how it goes!

Yvonne said...

Getting help for Blake and all of you to know how to deal with it is very smart. Those are tough things to deal with, but you are doing the best thing you can do in seeking help.

Can't wait to see the pictures of Blake's room.

Sorry about all the laptop problems.

Way to go with the weight loss. Congratulations.

Rockelle said...

Tonya,
I am impressed with you. SO MUCH!
I have made the same goal as you. Want to partner up?
I am working oout every day. and trying to change every thing I do choice wise. Anyways if you want a partner someone you can cry too when you want thAt piece of cake...I will be crying with you so let me know.


CONGRATS...14 lbs is awesome!

Kimberly said...

Great job getting help before the problems get out of control. Not many parents have that much foresight!

And congrats on the 14 pounds! I'm down about that much myself and some days it seems like I have so far to go, but then I realize how far I've come and that I can and hopefully will keep this p. =) Good luck!

Amber said...

I think it's good you're confronting it head-on. I used to be the queen of dishonesty when I was little. Don't know why I did it--it was just easier to lie. But my parents were loving yet firm with calling me on it every time I did it.

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